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‘THAT’S IT!’ – 3 Father’s Day Fathers

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Have you ever had a sudden ‘THAT’S IT!’ thought pop up? It sure popped up to me just now as I was finalizing a post you would have been reading right now. While typing away, I began texting back and forth with a few of my kids about a plan they had forming for Fathers day. Quickly, ‘THAT’S IT!’ hit me; FATHERS DAY !

I instantly thought that since I now show my postings on Sunday, and this Sunday is Father’s day, my heart bounced. ‘THAT’S IT !’ came to mind.

“THAT’S IT! I’ll set aside that original topic this week. That can wait,” I thought to myself. ” Father’s Day can’t.”

Three different fathers instantly came to my mind. Three different fathers that have played a huge role in my past, in my present, and in my future.

Father 1Past – This first father is the type of father most of you are thinking about today. Everyone’s biological father. That’s the main one we all think about when we say Father’s Day, right? But, not all biological fathers are with us this Fathers day. This is my first year without mine being he passed away about six months ago.

When he turned 90 years old last year, most of my six siblings and I got together to celebrate. Some of us flew in, knowing it just might be the last time we’d all be together with him. At that party, he wasn’t able to get all wrapped up in the conversations. All he could really do was simply look around, and say a few words now-&-then while watching his adult children enjoying everyone’s time together.

I am sad to include how ‘Father’ does not automatically mean ‘Dad’. That’s how it is for me. Yes, he did provide. And yes, he did show love to my siblings and I the way he felt was right. But as I got older, I knew he lacked the whole heart of a dad who gives that extra time his children need. While in my teen years, I began sensing how a father needs to be more than just the – quote – ‘Man Of The House’, or who just gives that little short and routine speech the night before your next school year begins.

There’s more I could share but I’ll just say that this first Father’s day with out my father isn’t hitting me as hard as I wish is would. I guess it’s because there have been a bit too many years wishing I had a true heart-felt ‘Dad’.

Father 2Present – As I begin writing about this father, one true smile begins to form. This father is the father of my own children; my husband. This father did all the things for our kids my father did not do for me. This father went to our kids games. This father got down on his knees to let the kids ride on his back. He was the one that stayed up late finishing that big science project due the next day. This father talked about this-and-that’s just for fun, or for the serious sides of life.

What’s most important, however, is that he included Christ is his children’s upbringing. You and I know that no father is perfect, but when a father cares for their child more than himself, that’s when you are allowed to give Father’s Day the title Daddy’s Day.

Father 3Past, Present, & Future – Thinking of this father is now causing my eyes to dampen just a bit because of thankfulness. This father is the one who has chosen me to be His child. This father is the best example of any father there ever was, is and will be. God. God the Father. God my Father.

The Bible attributes many characteristics to God—Savior, Healer, Friend—but perhaps the most personal is our Father. Many people think that if God exists, He is simply a distant entity in the sky, unreachable, unknowable, and disinterested in our lives. This couldn’t be further from the truth! He’s proven that He’s one true father to me over and over again. He’s proven that from the many joys He’s brought my way. But He’s also proven that during tough times as well, holding me extra tight when tears feel like they are taking over.

I’m glad ‘THAT’S IT!’ hit me, being it had me concentrate on the three types of Fathers I have. Have you taken this time to think of the fathers in your life? Father’s day can hold an entirely different meaning for everyone, and can be different from one year to the next. Let’s all focus on the encouraging side of Father’s Day, and the many blessings that one work – Father – has, is, or can bring your way.

But you have received the Spirit of adoption as sons, by whom we cry, Abba! Father! – Romans 8:15

Look at the birds of the air, that they do not sow, nor reap nor gather into barns, and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not worth much more than they? – Romans 6:26


Marianne Petersen’s book God and Your Pillow is now available on (Amazon) – Follow Marianne on Twitter at @mariannesmemoirs  and Facebook at @marimemoirs.

2 thoughts on “‘THAT’S IT!’ – 3 Father’s Day Fathers”

  1. Beautifully written Marianne. Im so grateful I had a daddy, father and still have our Father in heaven.
    Thank you for the warm thoughts.

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